What Does Your Ideal Life Look Like? Gaining Clarity

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You can gain superpowers when you gain clarity about your purpose in life. It is not an easy mental exercise, however. You may be asked existential questions and placed in imaginary scenarios by a life coach. The answers to these questions will give you a better understanding of what you want out of life. Knowing what you want is perhaps the most important prerequisite to achieving it. Everyone knows what they want, don’t they? Success, fame, fortune, and wealth.

The difficulty of gaining clarity

It is not always easy to define what we want. There is no point in relying on worn-out generalizations in this regard. It’s easy to lose sight of what we truly want in the grind of everyday life, always trying to meet others’ expectations. The ability to think about others and provide for their needs is an essential part of life. As a result of this process, we tend to identify with the needs and wants of those we provide for, eventually letting go of our own wants.

How to Gain Clarity

Through introspection and progressive improvement, leadership and executive coaches aim to help their clients become better versions of themselves. Coaching for leadership and coaching for life have similar objectives. They share the following objectives:

  • Clarifying clients’ life/leadership goals
  • Developing a commitment
  • Establishing a plan for achieving the goals
  • Analyzing the obstacles
  • Maintaining accountability and tracking progress

For coaching, I have always emphasized the importance of creating a compelling map of a leader’s strengths and weaknesses. During the diagnosis process, one learns about one’s current status and future goals.

A Few Questions to Ask Yourself

Ask yourself some cleverly formulated questions to re-establish contact with your aspirations and wants. By asking these questions, you’re painting yourself into a corner intellectually and psychologically so you can provide genuine, valuable answers when under pressure.

You should imagine that you only have a few years, rather than decades, left to achieve your goal. You should also disregard any thoughts concerning material limitations or practicality in your answers and focus solely on the theoretical side.

  • In your opinion, what is your greatest accomplishment?
  • In your life, what have you enjoyed most?
  • What would you do right now if you could not fail?
  • You have just gained access to an unlimited amount of material resources. Can you tell me what you do?
  • It is likely that you know people who inspire you. What are the qualities you appreciate most about them?
  • How do you make yourself happy?

You should only include the bits about what you would do to further your happiness in your answers. It has now become clear to you what you can do to make yourself a better, happier person.

Initiating action

Getting closer to your life goals and happiness will undoubtedly involve some daunting actions. Such actions should not be tackled directly. Consider taking smaller steps to reach your goals instead.

Changing your diet and sleeping schedule is the first step to building a phenomenal physique. Create some easy-to-achieve goals at first, and make them habits. Excellence is a habit, not something you do once.

Start by making donations and perhaps donating some of your time to a worthy cause if you intend to establish a charity.

Affirming the truth

You must accept some fundamental truths about yourself in order to gain clarity about your purpose. Without establishing these truths as your starting point, you cannot commit to improving yourself. You can achieve clarity by learning and accepting the truth about your purpose. Additionally, it involves pushing beyond your comfort zone and invalidating much of what you have accomplished thus far, which can be emotionally taxing and scary.

Your career and other previously reliable reference points may have to be abandoned in order for you to pursue your purpose. All of it, however, is worth it, according to the proposition.

Is clarity in leadership important to you? Are your goals aligned with those of your organization? You can find answers to those questions in my books and blog posts.